Through counselling and psychotherapy young people’s voice can be heard, listened to, allowing you to analyse your thought processes, think through issues that concern you and start making sense of the thoughts, feelings and emotions through exploration and working out solutions that are right and unique to your needs. Counselling support will enable you to be empowered and set realistic goals , aspirations and become stronger in dealing with difficulties that you encounter in life and then be able to deal with issues and problems and move forward.

Through psychotherapy you will be allowed to explore your mind and thoughts in a safe non judgemental environment. Here you can explore your ideas if you are not sure what to do by giving you space, time out to think through possible ideas and solutions to deal with your dilemmas.

In Counselling its all about you and what is unique and right for your needs and you are central and have the ultimate say in the decision making process which affects your life. You get the space and time to explore your thought processes, analyse and reach your own decisions about dealing with issues and problems and then are enabled to move forward . The psychotherapist will listen to you, get you to think out of the box and look at the problem through different perspectives and allow you to make your own decisions and empower you to enable you to deal with issues and to make key decisions that can affect your life and are important to you.

Why go to counselling through Simply Therapy?

Counselling is not for weak people its for those young people who are aware that they have issues, problems and dilemmas and can in a supportive environment and be able to deal with those concerns, set goals and aspirations and be empowered and move forward and succeed in life. Many young people use counselling every year for many different things. Sometimes just talking to someone away from your family or friends and who is trained in listening and supporting young people can be easier.

Psychotherapy and counselling does help young people who have had to face a wide range of issues and problems. Counselling can help you to deal with anxieties, depression, mood swings, thoughts of self harm and to others, deal with anger management, confidence issues, suicidal thoughts, being victimised and bullied, abuse, bereavement/loss, dealing with  family and relationship breakdowns, concerns about your education, the future and job prospects.

My experience and training as a psychotherapist and counsellor at Simply Therapy and where do you see me ?

I am qualified, trained and experienced in enabling young people to deal with their issues and problems and empower them so they can deal with conflicts that they face in life and be able to deal with them and become stronger and move forward to succeed in life.

Counselling is available directly to us through the internet or through mental health practitioners and Gps. At Simply Therapy I can meet you at our office premises in Bury, or at your home or at a suitable place that you are happy with  and am flexible and meet at a time that suits  you which can be in the day, evenings and weekends. At Simply Therapy through appointment booking either on line or by telephone. Also we offer an SMS Texting service if that suits your needs and requirements as well as face to face psychotherapy support.

At Simply Therapy usually counselling sessions last for an hour but do offer longer sessions where there is a need. Generally I offer 6 sessions and additional sessions can be provided where there are a number of issues , problems and dilemmas that you want support in being able to resolve. I will work at your pace where you are comfortable in analysing the decisions and thought processes when dealing with matters that are troubling you

What will I do with the the information that you share with me as a therapist ?

The problems, issues and dilemmas that you share with your Counsellor at Simply Therapy is of the utmost confidence and private in nature and stays in the counselling room. An important thing about counselling is that it is confidential . The only time confidentiality will be breached is when you are threatening to harm to yourself and others and we need to ensure yours and their safety which is paramount. Then we at evolve will talk to you first about it and then talk to someone else if you or  are in danger of committing serious harm to yourself or another.

What do young people think about counselling and how can it help you ?

Youngpeople have added that through counselling and psychotherapy that they feel that they have been able to unload to a specialist who listens, values them as individuals and are their to support and empower them to be able to deal with difficulties and be able to explore, work through them in a non judgemental, positive, safe environment where they are taken seriously.

Young people have said psychotherapy has made a substantial difference in their life and improved their mental health where they have felt : emotionally stronger, confident of who they are and believe in themselves and are stronger, where they feel accepted for who they are, have clear goals and aspirations and have focus in striving forward in life.

For more information on the services we offer please visit our website on www.simplytherapy.co.uk Email info@simplytherapy.co.uk or  Alternatively call me on 0161 29 85 999

Element of shyness and anxiety in certain social conditions is understandable but the issue arises when the feelings are extreme causing distress and having a debilitating effect on the individual and deters them from progressing, achieving what they want to do in life and not being able to face social interactions. The problem exacerbates when the anxiety has detrimental effect on the individuals self esteem in carrying out daily tasks such as going to work, school or college and socially in the local environment impacting on them being able to par take in social activity.

When can individuals experience social anxiety?

• Undertaking public speaking
• Talking to authority figures such as the Police
• Talking to a group of people
• Talking to one person
• Needing to approach a person to ask for help or clarification
• Eating in public which may be crowded
• Acting, singing and performing in front of an audience

What symptoms does social anxiety have on a person?

• Mouth dries up
• Stuttering and cannot talk clearly
• Feeling sick
• Feeling fatigued and worn out
• Butterflies in their stomach
• A rapid heart beat
• Blushing
• Sweating

How does a person feel when they feel social anxiety?

• Feel as if they are under the spotlight
• Think others are judging them negatively
• Feel others think they are boring, stupid and have nothing worthy to say
• After a social activity the individual over analyses and blames themselves for what they think did not go well rather than looking at the positive elements
• They often worry that others will notice these symptoms and judge them negatively as a result.
• How do the people facing social anxiety cope with the situations?
• Become isolated and avoid social interactions in the environment
• Stay in the background in bars and pubs and ‘be seen and not heard’

What causes social anxiety?

A number of factors cause social anxiety such as: However, in some ways it is less important to know what causes social anxiety and more important to know what stops us overcoming it.

Past Experiences:

If someone felt embarrassed in a previous social situation such as when talking to a group of people, they may think the same will happen again and as a result avoid the situation.

Biological Genetic Reasons:

Social anxiety can be linked to family traits, if someone in your immediate family is socially anxious; you are more likely to possess those traits.

Once an individual knows what causes social anxiety that is unique to them to its important to know what stops us overcoming it and then being able to put in measures to deal with the situations that are right for that person.

What prevents us overcoming social anxiety?

Unhelpful Thoughts:Make it more difficult for people to overcome their social anxiety. Where the person holds negative thoughts about their ability to socially interact, with thinking such as; they are a failure or boring. Which them impacts on their self esteem and then they struggle to be involved in social situations. Resulting in isolation and exclusion which makes it harder to come out of their shell.  Negative thoughts stop individuals overcoming their social anxiety as they are constantly putting themselves down and predicting failure

Avoidance tactics:  By avoiding or escaping from social contact whenever possible. Although this initially takes the individual out of the situation but by avoiding the encounter will make it more difficult to deal with and overcome.

Staying in the background: By staying in the background the individual then will not be given the opportunity show they can manage and cope in being in the conversation by not interacting and staying quiet which then impacts on self confidence and thereby remaining socially anxious.

Enhanced self awareness: Individuals focus and concentrate on their feelings and how their body language or bodily functions may be perceived. Are they sweating or blushing? This then exacerbates the feelings and anxieties. As the individual is focusing on themselves they lose track of where the conversation is and thereby find it difficult to join in and then the negativity kicks in where they believe they are useless in social settings.

For more information on the services I offer please visit my website on www.simplytherapy.co.uk Email info@simplytherapy.co.uk or  Alternatively call me on 0161 29 85 999

Feeling guilty and responsible?

Grieving is a natural process that everyone goes through and people can experience guilt as part of the grieving process thinking they did not do enough for the person, mistreated them, not saw them enough and if they had paid more attention the person may still be here. Where the person is depressed, their guilt may be all-consuming and the guilt linked with the depression can last a long time if the issues are not addressed.

Self Confidence

With the grief process the person will be confident in themselves and their self worth whereas with depression the individuals self confidence and worth takes a big blow and is at rock bottom and think they are responsible for the loss and deserve no happiness.

What are the physical symptoms of Grief and Depression?

With grief and depression symptoms people face include insufficient sleep or excessive sleep, lethargy and aching body. Feelings of darkness, the prospect and future being bleak and never ending and these symptoms can be noticeable to others and be prolonged.

Hallucinations, thinking of death and feelings of hopelessness

People who are grieving may seek comfort and think they can see and hear the person they have cared for. Where the grief has changed into depression is when the hallucinations are exacerbated and more damaging.

Having lost someone you loved may make you think of dying too and taking your own life so the pain, feel alone, punished, angry and isolated.

The person may be grudge other peoples happiness, question why this has happened to them, feeling empty and the world is against them , feeling  guilty in why they are existing. These negative thoughts and feelings may become more frequent. Individuals who experience depression become self consumed. Obsessed with the grief, feel hopeless and see the world and their future in a pessimistically and lingering over a longer timescale.

If you or a family member, friend or colleague you care about has experienced have lost someone they care for and are grieving and need a supportive, confidential non judgmental, safe place where you can talk, analyse and explore your thoughts and feelings  come and see us at Simply Therapy and learn to put in place measures which will help you cope and deal with the significant loss or grief. Grieving is a natural process and becomes problematic when the symptoms are prolonged and can lead onto depression and a downward spiral.  At Simply Therapy, I will provide a tailor made service that is unique to your needs and will be non judgmental, listen to you, support you all the way in dealing with your issues, exploring your  feelings. As a result you will be enabled, empowered where we will discuss and analyse the most effective way of managing the concerns you have helping you to put n place effective solutions so you will regain control over your life and your troubles and be able to move on positively and grow as an individual .

With Simply Therapy Counselling and Psychotherapy I am passionate and driven in making a difference to people’s lives and have over 20 years experience in improving individuals lives and enabling them to lead enriched and fulfilled lives.

At Simply Therapy, I will provide a tailor made service that is unique to your needs and will be non judgmental, listen to you, support you all the way in dealing with your issues, exploring your feelings. As a result you will be enabled, empowered where we will discuss and analyse the most effective way of managing the concerns you have helping you to put n place effective solutions so you will regain control over your life and your troubles and be able to move on positively and grow as an individual .

With Simply Therapy Counselling and Psychotherapy I am passionate and driven in making a difference to people’s lives and have over 20 years experience in improving individuals lives and enabling them to lead enriched and fulfilled lives.

If you would like to find out more information please visit our website: www.simplytherapy.co.uk or email info @simplytherapy.co.uk or call on 0161 2985 999

Simply Therapy, Ela Mill Business Complex, Bury, Greater Manchester, Lancashire, BL9 7DU, with an office in Greater Manchester and Rossendale

Emotional abuse can be construed like brain washing, dragging the individual down, and eradicating their self confidence, self worth and belief in themselves. Gradually the victim of the abuse loses their self confidence and worth. Emotional abuse gets to the inner subconscious core of a person leaving deeper scars than physical ones.

Types of Emotional Abuse

Aggressive

Includes name-calling, accusing, blaming controlling, threatening, and ordering. Aggressing behaviours are generally direct and obvious. This parent-to-child pattern of communication is most obvious when the abuser takes an aggressive stance.

Aggressive abuse can be disguised as “helping.” Criticizing, advising, offering solutions, analysing, probing, and questioning. With the effect of control rather than help.

Denying

Invalidating seeks to distort or undermine the recipient’s perceptions of their world. Invalidating occurs when the abuser refuses or fails to acknowledge reality. For example, if the recipient confronts the abuser about an incident of name calling, the abuser may insist, “I never said that,” or  “ you are talking rubbish and imagining things “

Withholding is another form of denying. Withholding includes refusing to listen, refusing to communicate, and emotionally withdrawing as punishment. This is sometimes called the “silent treatment.”

Minimising

The abuser may not deny that a particular situation has occurred, but they question the victims emotional understanding and experience to an event. Stating “You’re over sensitive,”” or “You’re blowing this out of perspective” all suggest that the victims emotions and thoughts are not to be trusted.

Both denying and minimising reduces self-esteem and creating conflict and can lead you to question and mistrust your own intuition, perceptions and emotional experience and understanding.

Understanding Emotional Abusive Relationships

No one intends to be in an abusive relationship, but individuals who were verbally abused by a parent or other significant person may find themselves in similar situations as an adult.

Victims of abuse may struggle with feelings of hopelessness, losing all power and be fearful. Ironically, abusers tend to struggle with these same feelings. Abusers may have been raised in emotionally abusive lives and learn to be abusive as a coping mechanism as they themselves feel with powerlessness, fearful and hurt. Abusers may be attracted to people who see themselves as helpless or who do not value their own feelings or views. Allowing the abuser to feel in control, and not dealing with theirown feelings.

Understanding the pattern of your relationships, especially those with family members and other significant people, is a first step toward change. Acknowledging and knowing yourself and understanding your past can prevent abuse from being recreated in your life.

Basic Rights in a healthy relationship

If you have been involved in emotionally abusive relationships, you may not have a clear idea of what a healthy relationship is like

The right to emotional support.

• The right to be heard by the other and respected.
• The right to have your own view.
• The right to have your feelings
• The right to live free from criticism and judgment.
• The right to encouragement.
• The right to live free from emotional and physical threat.
• The right to be called by no name that devalues you.
• The right to be respectfully asked rather than ordered.

How can you benefit from Simply Therapy Psychotherapy support

Simply Therapy can help you understand the impact of an emotionally abusive relationship and help you learn healthier ways of relating to others, safeguarding, protecting and caring for your own needs and emotions.

At Simply Therapy, I will provide a tailor made service that is unique to your needs and will be non judgmental, listen to you, support you all the way in dealing with your issues, exploring your feelings. As a result you will be enabled, empowered where we will discuss and analyse the most effective way of managing the concerns you have helping you to put n place effective solutions so you will regain control over your life and your troubles and be able to move on positively and grow as an individual .

With Simply Therapy Counselling and Psychotherapy I am passionate and driven in making a difference to people’s lives and have over 20 years experience in improving individuals lives and enabling them to lead enriched and fulfilled lives.

If you would like to find out more information please visit our website: www.simplytherapy.co.uk or email info @simplytherapy.co.uk or call on 0161 2985 999

Simply Therapy, Ela Mill Business Complex, Bury, Greater Manchester, BL9 7DU, with an office in Greater Manchester and Rossendale, Lancashire

Hearing that your illness cannot be cured would be daunting and frightening experience being told that you are going to die. You may not be able to take in the information. You may want to take a family member or friend in at follow up meetings unless you want to do this alone.

Each individual is unique and feelings can vary from shock, fear, numbness, anger, denial, helplessness, resentment, sadness, calm, relief and acceptance.

You may also feel alone, even if you have a good social network around you.

Whatever you feelings and emotions are, you do not have to go through it alone and can have support and someone to talk to and listen to your inner deep feelings and through support from Simply Therapy you can work through impartially what you want to happen with the rest of your life, what you want to do which might include sorting out the finances, family home, what you want from your family and friends and how you want the rest of your days to go which may not include family and friends pitying you, being miserable but being fun, positive and living the rest of your days in happiness to whatever degree you are able to and physical and emotional support.

Feeling uncertain

Knowing that you have a life-limiting condition leaves you living with uncertainty. You will have questions, such as how and when your body is going to change, the effect this will have on your independence and for those around you, what will happen at work, and  how much time you have left.

Not knowing exactly what is going to happen to you can feel overwhelming and upsetting. It is normal to feel like this, and it is OK to talk to people about how you are feeling.

It might also be helpful to talk about this with others who are in a similar situation, and to hear how they cope with these feelings.

Find someone to talk to

Not everybody wants to talk about what they are going through. Some people might not want to talk about it at all at first and others may want to talk to everyone as that is how they cope. Knowing you have a terminal can bring up worries and fears and being able to talk about these so that they do not start to feel impossible to deal. You may not want pity, sympathy from family and friends who do not know what to say and may wrap you in cotton wool. You may want to talk to someone less close to you where seeing a Counsellor at Simply Therapy who actually listens to you, supports you in working through and untangling your thoughts in a confidential non judgemental empathic manner may be exactly what you need.

 Feeling uncertain about the rest of your life

Knowing that you have a life-limiting condition inevitably leaves you living with uncertainty. You will probably have questions to which there are no definite answers, such as how and when your body is going to change, the effect this will have on your independence and your relationships, what will happen at work, and exactly how much time you have left.

Not knowing exactly what is going to happen to you can feel overwhelming and upsetting. It is normal to feel like this, and it is OK to talk to people about how you are feeling.

It might also be helpful to talk about this with others who are in a similar situation, and to hear how they cope with these feelings.

At Simply Therapy, I will provide a tailor made service by going through things one step at a time and therapy that is unique to your needs and will be non judgmental, listen to you, support you all the way in dealing with your terminal illness and death.  As a result you will regained control and composure, be able to plan how you want the rest of your life to be, put in measures to deal with practicalities such as finances, medication,where you would like to receive your care in the future, put in place time for activities you enjoy, to be directed to relevant complementary therapies such as aromatherapy. Being able to make the most of the rest of your life around those you love dearly. Not only can I give you support on a one to one basis I can work with other members of your family either separately or with you.

If you would like to find out more information on the counselling and psychotherapy support I can give you during this very traumatic time please visit our website: www.simplytherapy.co.uk or email info @simplytherapy.co.uk or call on 0161 2985 999

Simply Therapy, Ela Mill Business Complex, Bury, Greater Manchester, BL9 7DU, with an office in Greater Manchester and Rossendale, Lancashire

Internet addiction support Includes a thorough assessment, with a psychotherapist treatment plan.

With Internet addiction there is the underlying obsession and need to search online which is never satisfied and the urge controls you and is relentless where you can be lost in time and search continuously for that fix that will ultimately satisfy you.

For those who  experience online problems where  the Internet is like a private place where they can find the friends or potential relationships that they want and need .  Here men and women can in their own home explore endless activities whenever they want at their fingertips and can walk away or towards it when it suits.  When online they say something wrong they then can just change their name and details and start afresh.

Simply Therapy is there to support you

Do not feel isolated, overwhelmed, and ashamed. Come to us at Simply Therapy and we will support you and enable you to deal with your issues.

 How do you recognise internet, pornography and on line sex addictions

• compulsive urge to check the internet
• Neglecting your eating , sleeping and drinking and personal hygiene
• Becoming isolated
• Depression
• Facing relationship problems
• Panic and anxiety attacks if internet access is not available
• Obsession in excessive time spent online on the internet
• Neglecting family and friends
• Unable to concentrate on work and other tasks
• Feeling empty, depressed when not on line
• Lying to people to cover for the excessive amount of time spent on line
• Not engaging in other activities leading to social isolation

Could you be an internet, pornography or online sex addict ​​?

You  have a compulsion if you:

• Feel a strong need and urge which draws you online when you should be doing something else
• When you are not online you feel withdrawn,anxious and tense as if you are missing out
• Where your online presence interferes with other activities
• Where you find it hard to restrict and reduce time spent on the internet
• Where online activity interferes with your personal and family relationships

For more information on the services e-mail info@simplytherapy.co.uk or alternatively call me on 0161 29 85 999