Simply Therapy

Following a road traffic accident

2017-11-22T11:44:03Z

I was unable to get back in the car I was having panic attacks, getting really anxious, over thinking and stressing. Following the work with Jan where she applied CBT techniques amongst others I now am back in the car and able to do long distance travelling and I manage and cope, using the techniques she taught me to move forward in my life rather than before I was avoiding and it seriously affected my life and relationships

Following a road traffic accident I was not able to sleep, waking up sweating and having nightmares and flashbacks of the accident. With therapy, now I sleep soundly and have applied the strategies taught to my own life and my confidence and belief in my self has improved, I imagine the best and the best happens whereas in the past I imagined the worst and stayed in “stuck mode”

Selection of recent testimonials

2015-07-30T14:45:09Z

I had tremendous issues with my confidence, self-belief, self-worth and trust but with Jan’s therapeutic skills I am now positive, self-assured and no longer shy away and am moving on with my life.

I suffered from anxiety and panic attacks and now after a few sessions I am in control of my emotions, feelings and are managing my life effectively and am living life to the full. Thank you again Jan!

Due to my anger management issues I lost my job and partner. Through therapy with Jan I am now a calmer, relaxed, confident person and can manage stress and control my actions

Thanks Jan with your therapy I no longer take cocaine which ruined my relationship with my girlfriend. Now we are back together and are expecting our first child!

I suffered from sexual abuse and through therapy have found my true self and now can move on with my life and establish relationships

I am a successful business woman and the stress of managing a small business had traumatic effects on me and with hypnotherapy I am stress free and nothing gets the better of me now. Thank you!

I have suffered from depression since childhood and through hypnotherapy and counselling I am full of positivity, am driven, focused and have control of my life

I was going through domestic violence and through therapy have had the courage to walk away from a 9 year emotional and physical abusive relationship

I was struggling, living a lie for 27 years with my wife and through support from Jan I have had the confidence to face my true self as I have been in the wrong body and am transgender

I feared flying and through hypnotherapy with Jan have come back from Rome!

I had an internet, pornography addiction and it became so obsessive it took over my life. With Jan’s hypnotic skills the addiction has gone, like a cloud on a summer’s day!

Alcohol help, better sleep, and cigarette quitting

2015-07-30T14:44:41Z

I have had alcohol cessation hypnotherapy with Jan and my addiction almost cost me my family. Now my work life and relationships are back on track and life is great!
I have had weight loss hypnosis and have lost 19 lbs and look, feel amazing and have regained my confidence in myself at work and socially. Thank you Jan for all your support, the therapy worked!
I have not slept for more than 3 hours each night for over 20 years and through having a few sessions with Jan something must have clicked and now I sleep on average for 7 ½ hours and no longer toss and turn with lack of sleep! I can now focus, concentrate and lead a health productive life. Thanks pal!
I have suffered from social anxiety and with hypnotherapy from Jan I have regained confidence and belief in myself and now can go to normal places like supermarkets, shopping centres bars and restaurants! I am grateful Jan and wished id done this sooner!
I was a 60 plus a day cigarette smoker! Now I’ve stopped I am amazed – Thanks Jan!

Hypnotherapy Works

2014-07-25T19:10:00Z

I have lost just over 2 stone in 4 weeks, and yet to have the placing of virtual band session. I’ll definitely reach my goal before my holidays (Gastric Band Hypnotherapy client)

Thanks for the hypnotherapy last week 8th day now not had one puff of a cigarette and finding it very easy shockingly easy actually thanks very much I shall be recommending you to any smokers I know (Stop smoking one session approach)

I have lost just over 2 stone in 4 weeks, and yet to have the placing of virtual band session. I’ll definitely reach my goal before my holidays (Gastric Band Hypnotherapy client)

Just wanted to give you some feedback on my sessions. I have benefitted from them enormously. I can count on one hand the amount of times I have had a beer and even then I really haven’t enjoyed it. I much preferred iced water or diet coke. I am much more positive and feel happier in my choices.(Hypnotherapy client to control binge drinking)

I have been a persistent nail biter for almost my entire life and have tried numerous ways, including hypnosis, to try breaking this habit, yet I have always reverted back to my old ways. The hypnotherapeutic experience was relaxing due to the therapists expertise in hypnosis. The sessions made me forget about my worries, concentrate on the hostility I held towards my habit and look to a future without my embarrassing habit. I would strongly recommend hypnotherapy as I no longer bite my nails.

I’m doing really well lost half a stone in two weeks and hoping to lose a stone before my holiday. Everything seems to be falling into place for me I really appreciate everything you have done for me” (Hypnotherapy client for weight loss)

For the first time in my life I ordered a salad instead of a pasty & cake from my local bakers, it must be working”! (Hypnotherapy weight loss client total loss 12 pounds)

Counselling for young people

2014-07-25T20:04:22Z

Young people can receive counselling to support their mental health and enable them to make decisions when faced with issues, problems and dilemmas at Simply Therapy, Bury, Manchester.

Through counselling and psychotherapy young people’s voice can be heard, listened to, allowing you to analyse your thought processes, think through issues that concern you and start making sense of the thoughts, feelings and emotions through exploration and working out solutions that are right and unique to your needs. Counselling support will enable you to be empowered and set realistic goals , aspirations and become stronger in dealing with difficulties that you encounter in life and then be able to deal with issues and problems and move forward.

Through psychotherapy you will be allowed to explore your mind and thoughts in a safe non judgemental environment. Here you can explore your ideas if you are not sure what to do by giving you space, time out to think through possible ideas and solutions to deal with your dilemmas.

In Counselling its all about you and what is unique and right for your needs and you are central and have the ultimate say in the decision making process which affects your life. You get the space and time to explore your thought processes, analyse and reach your own decisions about dealing with issues and problems and then are enabled to move forward . The psychotherapist will listen to you, get you to think out of the box and look at the problem through different perspectives and allow you to make your own decisions and empower you to enable you to deal with issues and to make key decisions that can affect your life and are important to you.

Why go to counselling through Simply Therapy?

Counselling is not for weak people its for those young people who are aware that they have issues, problems and dilemmas and can in a supportive environment and be able to deal with those concerns, set goals and aspirations and be empowered and move forward and succeed in life. Many young people use counselling every year for many different things. Sometimes just talking to someone away from your family or friends and who is trained in listening and supporting young people can be easier.

Psychotherapy and counselling does help young people who have had to face a wide range of issues and problems. Counselling can help you to deal with anxieties, depression, mood swings, thoughts of self harm and to others, deal with anger management, confidence issues, suicidal thoughts, being victimised and bullied, abuse, bereavement/loss, dealing with family and relationship breakdowns, concerns about your education, the future and job prospects.

My experience and training as a psychotherapist and counsellor at Simply Therapy and where do you see me ?

I am qualified, trained and experienced in enabling young people to deal with their issues and problems and empower them so they can deal with conflicts that they face in life and be able to deal with them and become stronger and move forward to succeed in life.

Counselling is available directly to us through the internet or through mental health practitioners and Gps. At Simply Therapy I can meet you at our office premises in Bury, or at your home or at a suitable place that you are happy with and am flexible and meet at a time that suits you which can be in the day, evenings and weekends. At Simply Therapy through appointment booking either on line or by telephone. Also we offer an SMS Texting service if that suits your needs and requirements as well as face to face psychotherapy support.

At Simply Therapy usually counselling sessions last for an hour but do offer longer sessions where there is a need. Generally I offer 6 sessions and additional sessions can be provided where there are a number of issues , problems and dilemmas that you want support in being able to resolve. I will work at your pace where you are comfortable in analysing the decisions and thought processes when dealing with matters that are troubling you

What will I do with the the information that you share with me as a therapist ?

The problems, issues and dilemmas that you share with your Counsellor at Simply Therapy is of the utmost confidence and private in nature and stays in the counselling room. An important thing about counselling is that it is confidential . The only time confidentiality will be breached is when you are threatening to harm to yourself and others and we need to ensure yours and their safety which is paramount. Then we at evolve will talk to you first about it and then talk to someone else if you or are in danger of committing serious harm to yourself or another.

What do young people think about counselling and how can it help you ?

Youngpeople have added that through counselling and psychotherapy that they feel that they have been able to unload to a specialist who listens, values them as individuals and are their to support and empower them to be able to deal with difficulties and be able to explore, work through them in a non judgemental, positive, safe environment where they are taken seriously.

Young people have said psychotherapy has made a substantial difference in their life and improved their mental health where they have felt : emotionally stronger, confident of who they are and believe in themselves and are stronger, where they feel accepted for who they are, have clear goals and aspirations and have focus in striving forward in life.

For more information on the services we offer please visit our website on www.simplytherapy.co.uk Email info@simplytherapy.co.uk or Alternatively call me on 0161 29 85 999

Time and space to breathe

2014-07-22T15:36:40Z

the counselling sessions i have with Jan give me the time and space to address issues that i have been aware of but have not had the knowledge or experience to resolve. Jan guides me and enables me in a totally safe, confidential non judgmental atmosphere, to gain insight, understanding and clarity which then provides me with ways to move forward.

Helping our employee absenteeism

2014-07-22T15:34:08Z

We have a business in Bury and have had to loose 2 employees and in the past where their absenteeism due to their mental health condition impacted substantially on the team n business performance. As a caring employer we made allowances with reduction in hours and even accepted telephone calls on the day where the individual was unable to get to work which meant we had to put heavy pressure on the rest of the team members. As a consequence we had to re advertise, recruit and retrain new employees which had additional cost implications and affected our turnover until the staff were fully trained.

This time when we were faced with a situation where the staff member was suffering from depression and other issues we decided to try using the service from Jan as a counsellor and just after 3 sessions the difference in the employee was considerable and now the individual is back to work on a full time capacity, motivation back and drive and performance has exceeded. I wish I had made the refferals earlier as we have the best interest of our staff and want happy fully functional team members that are an asset to our organisation.

What is social anxiety?

2014-07-25T20:01:08Z

Social anxiety can be construed as being very uncomfortable in the public arena and one can look as though they are very shy. No doubt people can feel anxious and apprehensive when talking to people in a group or public speaking and can get butterflies in their stomach and feeling that they will not be able to conduct themselves in the manner they would like to.

Element of shyness and anxiety in certain social conditions is understandable but the issue arises when the feelings are extreme causing distress and having a debilitating effect on the individual and deters them from progressing, achieving what they want to do in life and not being able to face social interactions. The problem exacerbates when the anxiety has detrimental effect on the individuals self esteem in carrying out daily tasks such as going to work, school or college and socially in the local environment impacting on them being able to par take in social activity.

When can individuals experience social anxiety?

Undertaking public speaking
Talking to authority figures such as the Police
Talking to a group of people
Talking to one person
Needing to approach a person to ask for help or clarification
Eating in public which may be crowded
Acting, singing and performing in front of an audience

What symptoms does social anxiety have on a person?

Mouth dries up
Stuttering and cannot talk clearly
Feeling sick
Feeling fatigued and worn out
Butterflies in their stomach
A rapid heart beat
Blushing
Sweating

How does a person feel when they feel social anxiety?

Feel as if they are under the spotlight
Think others are judging them negatively
Feel others think they are boring, stupid and have nothing worthy to say
After a social activity the individual over analyses and blames themselves for what they think did not go well rather than looking at the positive elements
They often worry that others will notice these symptoms and judge them negatively as a result.
How do the people facing social anxiety cope with the situations?
Become isolated and avoid social interactions in the environment
Stay in the background in bars and pubs and ‘be seen and not heard’

What causes social anxiety?

A number of factors cause social anxiety such as: However, in some ways it is less important to know what causes social anxiety and more important to know what stops us overcoming it.

Past Experiences:

If someone felt embarrassed in a previous social situation such as when talking to a group of people, they may think the same will happen again and as a result avoid the situation.

Biological Genetic Reasons:

Social anxiety can be linked to family traits, if someone in your immediate family is socially anxious; you are more likely to possess those traits.

Once an individual knows what causes social anxiety that is unique to them to its important to know what stops us overcoming it and then being able to put in measures to deal with the situations that are right for that person.

What prevents us overcoming social anxiety?

Unhelpful Thoughts:Make it more difficult for people to overcome their social anxiety. Where the person holds negative thoughts about their ability to socially interact, with thinking such as; they are a failure or boring. Which them impacts on their self esteem and then they struggle to be involved in social situations. Resulting in isolation and exclusion which makes it harder to come out of their shell. Negative thoughts stop individuals overcoming their social anxiety as they are constantly putting themselves down and predicting failure

Avoidance tactics: By avoiding or escaping from social contact whenever possible. Although this initially takes the individual out of the situation but by avoiding the encounter will make it more difficult to deal with and overcome.

Staying in the background: By staying in the background the individual then will not be given the opportunity show they can manage and cope in being in the conversation by not interacting and staying quiet which then impacts on self confidence and thereby remaining socially anxious.

Enhanced self awareness: Individuals focus and concentrate on their feelings and how their body language or bodily functions may be perceived. Are they sweating or blushing? This then exacerbates the feelings and anxieties. As the individual is focusing on themselves they lose track of where the conversation is and thereby find it difficult to join in and then the negativity kicks in where they believe they are useless in social settings.

For more information on the services I offer please visit my website on www.simplytherapy.co.uk Email info@simplytherapy.co.uk or Alternatively call me on 0161 29 85 999

Grief and depression?

2014-07-25T19:58:52Z

Both grief and depression have a lot in common and may be experienced as deep sadness and feeling lost, alone and losing your appetite, having sleepless nights, experiencing fatigue and mood swings bleak perspective and outlook on life and encounter changes such as in appetite and lack or excessive sleep and tiredness. If the grief is suppressed, not managed and dealt with this can lead to depression. It is hard to know whether you are depressed or grieving when you encounter a significant loss in your life. The amount of time following the loss is not a reliable indicator of whether the person is going through depression or grief.

Feeling guilty and responsible?

Grieving is a natural process that everyone goes through and people can experience guilt as part of the grieving process thinking they did not do enough for the person, mistreated them, not saw them enough and if they had paid more attention the person may still be here. Where the person is depressed, their guilt may be all-consuming and the guilt linked with the depression can last a long time if the issues are not addressed.

Self Confidence

With the grief process the person will be confident in themselves and their self worth whereas with depression the individuals self confidence and worth takes a big blow and is at rock bottom and think they are responsible for the loss and deserve no happiness.

What are the physical symptoms of Grief and Depression?

With grief and depression symptoms people face include insufficient sleep or excessive sleep, lethargy and aching body. Feelings of darkness, the prospect and future being bleak and never ending and these symptoms can be noticeable to others and be prolonged.

Hallucinations, thinking of death and feelings of hopelessness

People who are grieving may seek comfort and think they can see and hear the person they have cared for. Where the grief has changed into depression is when the hallucinations are exacerbated and more damaging.

Having lost someone you loved may make you think of dying too and taking your own life so the pain, feel alone, punished, angry and isolated.

The person may be grudge other peoples happiness, question why this has happened to them, feeling empty and the world is against them , feeling guilty in why they are existing. These negative thoughts and feelings may become more frequent. Individuals who experience depression become self consumed. Obsessed with the grief, feel hopeless and see the world and their future in a pessimistically and lingering over a longer timescale.

If you or a family member, friend or colleague you care about has experienced have lost someone they care for and are grieving and need a supportive, confidential non judgmental, safe place where you can talk, analyse and explore your thoughts and feelings come and see us at Simply Therapy and learn to put in place measures which will help you cope and deal with the significant loss or grief. Grieving is a natural process and becomes problematic when the symptoms are prolonged and can lead onto depression and a downward spiral. At Simply Therapy, I will provide a tailor made service that is unique to your needs and will be non judgmental, listen to you, support you all the way in dealing with your issues, exploring your feelings. As a result you will be enabled, empowered where we will discuss and analyse the most effective way of managing the concerns you have helping you to put n place effective solutions so you will regain control over your life and your troubles and be able to move on positively and grow as an individual .

With Simply Therapy Counselling and Psychotherapy I am passionate and driven in making a difference to people’s lives and have over 20 years experience in improving individuals lives and enabling them to lead enriched and fulfilled lives.

At Simply Therapy, I will provide a tailor made service that is unique to your needs and will be non judgmental, listen to you, support you all the way in dealing with your issues, exploring your feelings. As a result you will be enabled, empowered where we will discuss and analyse the most effective way of managing the concerns you have helping you to put n place effective solutions so you will regain control over your life and your troubles and be able to move on positively and grow as an individual .

If you would like to find out more information please visit our website: www.simplytherapy.co.uk or email info @simplytherapy.co.uk or call on 0161 2985 999

Simply Therapy, Ela Mill Business Complex, Bury, Greater Manchester, Lancashire, BL9 7DU, with an office in Greater Manchester and Rossendale

What is Emotional Abuse?

2014-07-25T19:53:54Z

Any behaviour exhibited to control a person through the fear, humiliation, and verbal or physical acts. Emotional abuse is abuse that is emotional rather than physical in nature and includes verbal abuse ,criticism, ridicule, intimidation, manipulation, and refusal to ever be pleased.

Emotional abuse can be construed like brain washing, dragging the individual down, and eradicating their self confidence, self worth and belief in themselves. Gradually the victim of the abuse loses their self confidence and worth. Emotional abuse gets to the inner subconscious core of a person leaving deeper scars than physical ones.

Types of Emotional Abuse

Aggressive

Includes name-calling, accusing, blaming controlling, threatening, and ordering. Aggressing behaviours are generally direct and obvious. This parent-to-child pattern of communication is most obvious when the abuser takes an aggressive stance.

Aggressive abuse can be disguised as “helping.” Criticizing, advising, offering solutions, analysing, probing, and questioning. With the effect of control rather than help.

Denying

Invalidating seeks to distort or undermine the recipient’s perceptions of their world. Invalidating occurs when the abuser refuses or fails to acknowledge reality. For example, if the recipient confronts the abuser about an incident of name calling, the abuser may insist, “I never said that,” or “ you are talking rubbish and imagining things “

Withholding is another form of denying. Withholding includes refusing to listen, refusing to communicate, and emotionally withdrawing as punishment. This is sometimes called the “silent treatment.”

Minimising

The abuser may not deny that a particular situation has occurred, but they question the victims emotional understanding and experience to an event. Stating “You’re over sensitive,”” or “You’re blowing this out of perspective” all suggest that the victims emotions and thoughts are not to be trusted.

Both denying and minimising reduces self-esteem and creating conflict and can lead you to question and mistrust your own intuition, perceptions and emotional experience and understanding.

Understanding Emotional Abusive Relationships

No one intends to be in an abusive relationship, but individuals who were verbally abused by a parent or other significant person may find themselves in similar situations as an adult.

Victims of abuse may struggle with feelings of hopelessness, losing all power and be fearful. Ironically, abusers tend to struggle with these same feelings. Abusers may have been raised in emotionally abusive lives and learn to be abusive as a coping mechanism as they themselves feel with powerlessness, fearful and hurt. Abusers may be attracted to people who see themselves as helpless or who do not value their own feelings or views. Allowing the abuser to feel in control, and not dealing with theirown feelings.

Understanding the pattern of your relationships, especially those with family members and other significant people, is a first step toward change. Acknowledging and knowing yourself and understanding your past can prevent abuse from being recreated in your life.

Basic Rights in a healthy relationship

If you have been involved in emotionally abusive relationships, you may not have a clear idea of what a healthy relationship is like

The right to emotional support.

The right to be heard by the other and respected.
The right to have your own view.
The right to have your feelings
The right to live free from criticism and judgment.
The right to encouragement.
The right to live free from emotional and physical threat.
The right to be called by no name that devalues you.
The right to be respectfully asked rather than ordered.

How can you benefit from Simply Therapy Psychotherapy support

Simply Therapy can help you understand the impact of an emotionally abusive relationship and help you learn healthier ways of relating to others, safeguarding, protecting and caring for your own needs and emotions.

If you would like to find out more information please visit our website: www.simplytherapy.co.uk or email info @simplytherapy.co.uk or call on 0161 2985 999

Simply Therapy, Ela Mill Business Complex, Bury, Greater Manchester, BL9 7DU, with an office in Greater Manchester and Rossendale, Lancashire